Is it ok to be sad?
03.19.05 (9:26 pm) [edit]I know its ok to be mad, hurt, happy or the other various emotions we experience, but is it ok to be sad and be a Christian?
I think it is, but I feel guilty being sad sometimes. Like, for example, my life isn't bad, so why be sad? What justifies being sad? I don't know the answers to this, but I am seeing more and more that it is the people who I surround myself with that determine my emotions. Or the things I am surrounded by, not just people.
And another thing. I think we should all come with warning labels. Something on our back that says "Easily irritated" or "Insecure, please be gentle" or even "Has a chip on shoulder." Maybe this would make life easier for everyone. And then when someone outgrows that particular thing, they could have a new sign for the next stage in their life. I just think there is a certain joy to getting to know someone really well, but there can also be a level of pain, confusion or frustration at finding out someone is not what you thought they were . . . and that can be unbelievably troubling.
posted by: trickangle (reply)
post date: 03.20.05 (6:45 am)
I have a moral question: is it ok to manipulate someone by calling their parents over a personal issue? That's one I've been struggling with lately. What do you all think?
posted by: Erin (reply)
post date: 03.20.05 (12:51 pm)
I agree with the 'warning labels.' Sometimes you think you know how to relate with someone, and you don't realize what's currently going on on a deeper level with them. Sometimes we can avoid hurting someone really badly by knowing their situation- or we can help them, give them that hug or way to vent or work through it, but it's hard to do so when we don't know the real deal.
Didn't we do that for a little while as roommates? But on the door instead of our backs? I know that when you put something up, it really helped me to know where you're at and what you needed. As much as I wish that people could read my mind, I only set myself up for a disappointment when I don't clearly express what I need.
What happens when we (or anybody) only share our hurts and don't heal or let others do anything? Like we want attention, but aren't willing to change?
posted by: trickangle (reply)
post date: 03.20.05 (12:58 pm)
So you resort to blocking me from commenting. . . . Nice. . . . Well you'll have to do better than that.
posted by: hopie (reply)
post date: 03.20.05 (5:17 pm)
I didn't intend my blog to be a pointed slam at anyone. I feel like this is a place to express my feelings or confusion or ask for advice. I am sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings.
posted by: Sosa (reply)
post date: 03.22.05 (11:23 am)
You have a right to express your thoughts here... and you do it well. That is a good thought, what if we had signs on our backs? Then people would know how to approach us or whether they should at all. We wouldn't have to say anything.
I think we should all wear "Hello, my name is..." stickers. Then when we say hello to someone, we could respectfully address them by their names. How cool would that be???
posted by: hopie26 (reply)
post date: 03.22.05 (2:26 pm)
Reply to: Sosa
Nametags like "Sarah: Favorite daughter of God?" That would be kind of cool. As long as all women had that tag!